Building a Mutually Beneficial Mentor-Mentee Relationship

When entering the professional world, having a mentor can be very important. In fact,  a 2012 Dimensional Research survey revealed that mentorship was the number one request by millennials worldwide. 42% of millennials said that when it came time to enter the professional world, they wanted mentors.But can the mentor learn from their mentees as well? It turns out that the mentor-mentee relationship has become mutually beneficial.

To understand the ways the mentor-mentee relationship in changing in today’s society, we must look at how millennials are shifting their focus. While they are strongly enthusiastic about getting mentors, they don’t necessarily want to follow in their mentor’s shoes. It may seem at first pointless to mentor someone who isn’t doing exactly what you want to do. Perhaps this diversity in aspirations is what leads mentors to learn from mentees, too.

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But there are more benefits to the mentor-mentee relationship than seeing someone choose their own experience. So what is it that makes mentoring a younger person such a good life experience? And how can we get the most out of the mentor-mentee relationship?

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Of course, it feels rewarding to help another person. But there are more benefits to the mentor-mentee relationship than the satisfaction of lending a helping hand. Mentoring a younger person also gives a mentor insight into the mindset of the younger work force. This allows the professionals in higher up positions to understand more about millennials who are entering the workforce. It also gives the mentor connections to the mentee’s friends and peers. This network of people provides many viable candidates for professions that need to be filled. Companies and individuals will need to hire these young professionals in the next 10 to 15 years in order to stay relevant.

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One of the most important things to remember when maintaining a mentor-mentee relationship is to keep it professional. Make sure that the friendship does not become one similar to a parent and child. It is important to set expectations and remain constructive. And of course, stay open to learning new information and skills from your mentee.

The younger crop of professionals can also help out their mentors figure out new aspects of the professional world that may be stumping them. For example, millennials are a great source of information on how to manage social media. In the information age, technology is constantly creating new jobs and new professional angles that are necessary to take. A mentor is an enormously helpful person in a young professional’s life. But in an ever changing professional world, mentees can help mentors get ahead in the professional world, too.

How to Find the Perfect Mentor

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Much like finding a friend, finding a mentor isn’t something that you blatantly ask for and then receive. It takes time, relationship building and trust – a reason why many mentorship searches fizzle out before they even truly begin. At the end of the day, you wouldn’t give up on making friends just because it’s “hard.” Instead, you find a new approach and rely on the organic nature of human interaction.

If you want to find that perfect mentor, consider the following points:

Stop thinking of a mentor as a tool you have and instead, think of a mentor as a relationship you nurture. According to Facebook’s COO, Sheryl Sandberg, “If someone has to ask [can you be my mentor], the answer is probably no.” Mentorship isn’t something you find hanging from the bottom branches of a tree. It’s even more unlikely a stranger will agree to be your mentor if they are a public figure. Take some time actually getting to know people and evaluate your role as a mentee. It isn’t all about what you can take. Find people you know and admire in your office or who you’ve come into contact with at some point in your career. Attend those extracurricular functions and volunteer for difficult projects. You’re bound to run into someone you can look up to.

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Sometimes, it’s even better to think outside the box. Depending on the skills and qualities you admire, your mentor may not be in your career field. For example, if you’re a young entrepreneur with a tech startup looking for guidance, another successful businessperson or marketing director can offer significant insight even if they aren’t in the tech industry. The act of building a business, marketing it, and nurturing it contains immense knowledge that any beginner can use.

If you have no idea what type of mentor you’re looking for, take a step back and flesh out your needs. Pick a mentor who shares your values or believes in a similar mission. Someone who’s optimistic, straightforward, and encouraging would be your best bet. While you could opt for the bitter, jaded professional with 30+ years experience under their belt, this mentor may not be the best fit for you. Make sure you and your mentor have mutual respect.

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In most cases, the person you want to mentor you has a million other things they could be doing besides sharing their wealth of knowledge. Because of this, it’s important to be someone who is enjoyable to mentor. Much like you would ask your mentor to be kind, understanding, and reasonable, you have to be the same. Be great at what you do, ask for more responsibility, and give credit where credit is due. Also put yourself in your mentor’s position. If you were them, would you want to mentor you?

The road to finding a mentor isn’t straight and narrow. There are many avenues and exciting ways to connect with someone who can help you when you need it most. Just remember, mentorship is always a two-way street.

3 Books Every Young Professional Should Read

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We all know that reading is essential, yet sometimes, the busier we get, the more responsibilities we obtain, and the longer our work days become, we find it difficult to actually sit down and take some time to read a good book. Perhaps if we alter the way we think about reading, and acknowledge its true value, we can come to understand how reading is truly an investment towards our professional development.

With that said, here are 3 books every professional should read to increase productivity, efficiency, creativity, and problem solving.

How To Win Friends and Influence People – Dale Carnegie

If your professional background is in sales or public relations, this is an excellent read. Now, keep in mind, this book was written in the 1930s and lot has changed since then. However, with over 15 million copies sold to date, How to Win Friends and Influence People remains as relevant as ever. According to Dale Carnegie, “Financial success is due 15 percent to professional knowledge and 85 percent to “the ability to express ideas, to assume leadership, and to arouse enthusiasm among people.” Even Warren Buffet has praised Carnegie’s work as “the most successful self-help book of all time.”

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#GIRLBOSS – Sophia Amoruso

Who says young women don’t make great business leaders. Sophia Amoruso recounts her story as a college dropout, lost and directionless, she began selling vintage clothes in the lobby of an art school. She eventually built this small eBay shop into the multi-million dollar company Nasty Gal. According to Vanity Fair, “Rather than present a get-rich-quick manual or a list of business tips, Amoruso teaches the innovative and entrepreneurial among us to play to our strengths, learn from our mistakes, and know when to break a few of the traditional rules.”

Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Load… And Others Don’t – Jim Collins

What factors contribute to company longevity and growth? How do good, mediocre, or even bad companies prosper? Jim Collins takes a closer look at how good companies turn great and how business owners today can differentiate between which risks to endure and which to avoid.

These three professional development reads will definitely inspire you to put your best foot forward.

How Big Companies Lose Top Employees

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High turnover is never a good sign. High turnover is especially bad when companies begin to lose their best and brightest. LinkedIn recently conducted a study which indicated that 59% of employees seek new career opportunities at smaller establishments. While some top tier companies are wondering why their employees would seek a more intimate setting, and in some instances even a pay cut, the answer may be very clear. Here are 3 reasons your top talent is jumping ship for smaller boats.

1. Talented, experienced employees see through the hype.

After years in a particular industry or niche, most talented employees are going to understand that every day working at any company won’t be filled with sunshine and butterflies. If you’re trying to sell potential or new employees on how amazing it will be for them to work at your company without the slightest mention of daily grit and grind, you’re going to give off the impression that what you’re selling is “too good to be true.” And as our mothers always said, “if something seems too good to be true, it usually is.” Building an employee brand with honesty and transparency has become increasingly important to the modern day worker. Make sure that if you have a particularly large staff that your HR and Marketing teams are on the same page regarding employee brand.

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2. Gone are the days of the typical 9-5 employee.

Although navigating the job market continues to prove difficult, sophisticated job seekers no longer find a typical 9 to 5 job appealing. They no longer want to simply clock in, stare at the dull grey walls of a cubicle, then clock out at 5. They seek thrill and meaning in their work. This isn’t to say employees necessarily want to work less hours, but more so, they want to truly feel as though they are part of a team. Instead of working “for” and employer, they’d rather work “with” them. Especially with the cost of education constantly rising, even recent graduates want to feel valued for their contributions.

3. Poor Office Culture.

Tying in both concepts of a strong employee brand and collaborative workforce, many employees are seeking companies that provide a fun and engaging office culture. If you think about it, most Americans spend more time at work than they do at home. Because of this, employees are jumping left and right at job opportunities that not only provide strong benefit packages but also perks. This is the main reason talented employees are neglecting corporate jobs for small startups. If a startup cannot offer comparable pay, they usually offer a number of perks ranging from company outings, free gear, unlimited product use, or top of the line technology.

In order to succeed, big business may have to rethink how they treat their top talent.